Books for Parents and Professionals Working with Parents
Dr. Moran is the coauthor of two books for parents and professionals working with parents.
“A very handy resource for parents experiencing the stress of a resistant child.”
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
by John A. Moran Ph.D., Tyler Sullivan, J.D. and Matthew Sullivan, Ph.D.
Overcoming the Coparenting Trap helps parents understand the reasons why some children resist a parent. It provides practical suggestions for supporting a child’s healthy relationship with both parents.
Overcoming the Coparenting Trap also helps both parents develop the special skills that are needed to respond to RRP.
Skills for the Resisted Parent include:
Responding when the child rejects affection
Communicating with a resisting child
Disciplining a resisting child
Taking responsibility and apologies
Skills for the Favored Parent include:
Responding when the child complains about the other parent
Responding when a child refuses parenting time
Taking responsibility and apologizing
Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.
Northern California Mediation Center, author of Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce
" Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap is an important, excellent, and easy to use resource for parents (and professionals) when a child resists contact with mom or dad. Within a family systems framework, “Overcoming...” focuses on developing more effective strategies, skills, and goals for both preferred and resisted parents. Particularly helpful are concrete examples of problematic communications and behaviors followed by alternative suggestions likely to create a more positive effect in improving co-parenting and parent-child relationships disrupted by separation or divorce."
Jeffrey A. Soilson
Fitch Law Partners LLP, Boston (Family Law Attorney, Fellow and President-Elect of the MA-AAML)
"Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap: Essential Parenting Skills When a Child Resists a Parent is a resource that I have used in my divorce and family law practice on a number of occasions to provide clients (both “Resisted Parents” and “Preferred Parents") with an introduction to the concept of effective co-parenting under the strain of the extremely difficult circumstances that arise when a child resists contact with a parent. For many, these are completely foreign subjects. I have had some parents ask me exactly what I mean when I refer to "co-parenting." Others question me on the exact meaning of "effective co-parenting.” Still others can neither fathom the damage to a child who resists contact with a parent, nor grasp the concept of acquiring and honing specialized skills to deal with such a situation. This book provides answers. It identifies the problems and discusses various skills to solve them. What I like most about the book is that there are sections dedicated to both Resisted Parents and Preferred Parents. Some I’ve found only focus on only one section. Others read on - interested in understanding the problem from the other side’s perspective. An easy read - well organized - and a terrific ongoing reference guide - I highly recommend this book to others.
“Impressive! A very useful resource for parents dealing with a child’s resistance to seeing a parent after a separate or divorce...”
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
By John A. Moran, Ph.D., Shawn McCall, Psy.D., Esq., and Matthew Sullivan, Ph.D.
Overcoming the Alienation Crisis provides important understandings about the nature of Resist Refuse Problems (RRP) and solutions for common parenting and coparenting dilemmas in families confronted with RRP.
Table of Contents
The Alienation Crisis
Types of Resist Refuse Problems
What Causes Resist Refuse Problems
Children Caught in the Crisis
Intractable Resist Refuse Problems
Three Stages of Resist Refuse Problems
The Three Dementors of Resist Refuse Problems
Moving from Coparenting Paralysis to Coordination
33 Solutions for Frequently Encountered
Coparenting Solutions: Improving Communication
Coparenting Solutions: Responding to Your Child’s Complaints
Coparenting Solutions: Responding to Your Child’s Resistance
Talking to Your Child About Their Other Parent
Coparenting Solutions: Supporting Your Anxious Child
Coparenting Tools and Strategies
Parallel Coparenting to De-Escalate Conflict
Five Shifts to Becoming a Neutral Coparent
From Resentment to Reconnection
What Makes Family Therapy More or Less Likely to Succeed
Robin M. Deutsch, Ph.D., ABPP
Professor of Clinical Psychology, William James College
" Overcoming the Alienation Crisis is one of the most helpful books for professionals and parents in the field of Resist Refuse Parenting Problems. The authors, psychologists who have been in the forefront of thinking about these complex problems, present a research-based, comprehensive and balanced view of this issue. You will certainly want to read how the Dementors contribute to these parent-child problems, yet it is the specific and practical solutions, strategies and tips that will help parents move from an escalated coparent to an effective neutral coparent. If you are a professional or parent dealing with these problems, I suggest you read this book NOW."
lawyer, therapist, developer of the New Ways for Families®
"Impressive! A very useful resource for parents dealing with a child’s resistance to seeing a parent after a separate or divorce. This contains a thorough analysis of this growing problem, followed by a detailed set of suggestions (33!) on how to handle all of the predictable problems step-by-step. Professionals and parents will benefit from reading this book—and keeping it handy!"
Dr. Moran has contributed to peer-reviewed professional publications including:
Moran, J. A., Weinstock, D., and Butler, K. A. Matching Parenting Education Programs to Family Treatment Needs (2019). In Evidence-Informed Interventions for Court-Involved Families: Promoting Healthy Coping and Development. Greenberg, L. R., Fidler, B. J. & Saini, M. A. (Eds.).
Mahrer, N.E., Sandler, I. N., Wolchik, S. A., Winslow, E. B., Moran, J. A., & Weinstock, D. (2016). How Do Parenting Time and Interparental Conflict Affect the Relations of Quality of Parenting and Child Well-Being Following Divorce? In Parenting Plan Evaluations: Applied Research for the Family Court, 2nd Edition. Drozd, L., Saini, M. & Olesen, N. (Eds.). Oxford University Press, New York.
Polak, S. & Moran, J.A. (2017). The Current Status of Outpatient Approaches to Parent-Child Contact Problems. In Judge, A. M. & Deutsch, R. M. (Eds.) Overcoming Parent-Child Contact Problems; Family-Based Interventions for Resistance, Rejection, and Alienation, Oxford University Press.
Sandler, I., Wolchik, S., Winslow, E.B., Mahrer, N. E., Moran, J. A., & Weinstock, D. (2012) Quality of Maternal and Paternal Parenting Following Separation and Divorce. In Parenting Plan Evaluations: Applied Research for the Family Court, Kuehnle, K. & Drozd, L. (Eds.). Oxford University Press, New York.
Moran, J.A., and Weinstock, D.K (2011) Assessing Parenting Skills for Family Court. Journal of Child Custody,